We have all heard of the term “Domestic Goddesses” (and rightfully so). These amazing women study Rachel Ray, Martha Stewart, and Giada De Laurentis like it’s a religion. Their homes are organized, decorated, smell nice, and there always seems to be a something in the oven. They can sew, facilitate bake sales, and make it to every soccer game there is. Keep all the children (and Husband) on a routine. While daddy is off at work and the kids are at school or doing a laundry list of other extra curricular activities, these super moms do arts and crafts, and go ape shit posting there ideas and recipes on Pintrist. Did I mention they also find time to squeeze yoga and grocery shopping into the schedule? Yes Domestic Goddesses are impressive beings.
However, not all women share the same desire to stay home and run the household, or be given the sole responsibility (nor should they). In may cases women are out making far more money than their spouses or partners could ever make. Also, because of the economic climate of today, households need 2 incomes leaving the primary caregiving to be divvied up. Sometimes wives have to enter the work force because their husbands have become disabled or laid off.
In recent years we have seen the number of stay at home dads and/or shared caregiving triple in the US, Canada, and the UK. Some men, but not all, seem to struggle with this because, quite frankly, they weren’t giving the tools to do so when growing up. Little boys aren’t taught how to run a household, bake, or do all the things mom did. In addition to the lack of home skills, most men are uncomfortable with the perception of being less “manly” in the role of primary care giver. It goes without saying that in our world numerous social stigmas exist, but that shouldn’t keep us from the imminent evolution of the family household.
Luckily because of my job I got the cooking, organizing and cleaning down. I just struggle with the ponytails, (a skill I have vowed to master in 2014) and hope I never have to go bra shopping. The important thing is that I help my wife and don’t leave all the domestic duties up to her. That’s what a modern family does or should do (in my opinion). Share the responsibilities and ignore the 1950’s preconceived notion of what it means to be a family, man, father, woman, or whatever for that matter.
This doesn’t just go for guys with families. In a recent poll done by a very popular men’s magazine, which asked women what they found sexy in a man, listed the ability to cook as one of the top attributes. Divorce, same sex marriage, and loss of a spouse can all be reasons why men would need to become more domestic.
So guys, put down the hammer and remote and get your ass and into the kitchen. It’s time you branch out and do a little more than mow the lawn, hang shit and dick around in the garage (which you still should do). By becoming more domesticated your family will think you’re just as manly, and your spouse/partner will more than likely find it sexy. Your children will grow up in a house seeing their parents working as a team and their father being nurturing.
I can’t fix a fucking thing to save my life (other than the basic bike chains, cabinet doors, etc), but I can cook my ass off, and I can always call someone to fix the kitchen sink. Trust me when I tell you I have no insecurities about my “manliness”. Its time you become a “Domestic God” and debunk the gender role stereotypes.